4 Steps to Letting Go
What comes first: thoughts or feelings?

We assume that what happens is that we have a thought, and this then determines our feelings and physical responses. This is the intuitive way to imagine it.

However, in his book ‘Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender”, David Hawkins presents evidence that supports the opposite view, that our thoughts are often driven by how we are feeling.

This means that we cannot only focus on positive thinking and make the feelings go away. However, we can use our thoughts to challenge those feelings, and slowly teach our body not to produce them.

“Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender” by David R. Hawkins

The book “Letting Go” by David Hawkins is about allowing yourself to experience your own emotions, that specifically means, in particular negative emotions such as fear, sadness, anger and their correlatives such as rage, despair, worthlessness.

Hawkins elaborates a path to healing and letting go of wounds/blockages that are preventing the realization of higher states of consciousness. Hawkins details a simple yet profoundly powerful technique called the ‘Letting Go Technique‘ that can be used anytime, anywhere to skilfully process emotions and lead us toward higher, lighter, freer stages of human development.

The Hawkins’ Chart

We have different ways to deal with negative emotions: when we feel an emotion that we do not want, we have a tendency to either suppress it, repress it, express it, or escape it.

The Hawkins’ Chart, also called energy chart or vibrational chart, brings together emotions that we will feel at some point in our lives.

In this chart, emotions are categorised by a traffic light system.: green (good), yellow (ok) and red (bad). The colours represent warning signs, with red being a “call to action” where we need to change something.

David Hawkins Energy Chart
David Hawkins Energy Chart

According to Dr Hawkins, each emotion is like a folder in a computer, a folder that contains hundreds of associated thoughts.

Changing and releasing a particular emotion allow us to change all those associated thoughts that are in the folder.

4 Practical Steps to Letting Go

Letting go involves being with the feeling and allowing the feeling to be there without resisting it.

Here are 4 practical steps that can assist you in Letting Go.


Take a comfortable position. Relax your body. Take a few deep breaths.

Now bring up something you wish to let go of. May it be a thought, event, behaviour, desire or something else.


Focus on that you want to let go and immediately tune in to how you feel.

Do you feel resistance immediately?

What emotions come up?

Can you give the emotions a name?

Is it sadness, anger, resistance, frustration?


Try to localise the emotion in the body (exp. head, neck, arms, legs).

Be very specific with the localisation and try to describe the emotion using colours, temperatures, or even physical states such as (liquid, solid,..) (exp.: “a burning sensation around my eyes”, “a cold stream around my belly area”, “huge tension on my shoulders going all the way into my neck”)


Now fully feel that sensation in your body and be totally present with it. Stay there until you feel a sense of relief or a fading away.

Relax into it. Set all judgment aside. Do not think about how long you should spend with that sensation. Just stay there as long as the emotion needs (this can take 1, 5, or even 20 minutes).

Stay there until you feel a sense of relief or a fading away.

Usually, there are multiple levels to an emotion so the sensation you just felt may transform into a different sensation. If so, repeat that process. Repeat that process multiple times with every emotion that comes up.

When the emotion is fully resolved and you feel a sense of peace in your whole being, you can slowly come back and open your eyes.

Integrating The Letting Go Technique With Reiki

The “Letting Go” Technique” can be integrated into a Reiki self-treatment with the intention to tune into the root cause of an emotion that we want to let go of and ask Reiki to heal it.

This involves starting the Reiki self-treatment by grounding, protecting and cleansing your energy. Different Reiki symbols can be used during the self-healing session; in particular the Distant Symbol can be used to go to the original event/root cause of the identified emotion.

In the post Integrating The Letting Go Technique With Reiki we discuss all steps in more detail.

Best Quotes from “Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender” by David R. Hawkins
Letting go quote
David Hawkins – Letting Go – Quotes

Giancarlo is a fully accredited Holy Fire® III, Karuna Reiki® Master Teacher, Past Life Regression Therapist, Spiritual Healer and a Consultant Healer of the College of Psychic Studies in London.

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